I’m giving someone the benefit of doubt… and I hate it.
So I met a cute guy, his self esteem is a little low but he’s cute and doesn’t know it – WINNING!! Ok we matched on tinder a few weeks ago and he seemed ‘slow’ but I went with the flow….. hardly any movement but whatever…
Eventually I gave him my numbers after I made it seem like it was his brilliant idea.. it wasn’t, I told him we should chat on whatsapp
After another 2 weeks or so, we finally agreed to meet up, well I straight out said I didn’t want to chat until Jesus comes so we meeting or nah???…
At this point I have zero excitement and if eyerolls counted as exercise, I would be sexy AF. We would be meeting after work and he kept insisting that it’s not a date and it’s just a coffee so obviously that means he’s on a budget and I’m not getting a meal….in my head anyway. So, the day of the date he’s quiet. I packed my gym bag in the morning incase this sloth flaked on me. I greet him and he responds 30 minutes later… that’s his annoying norm by the way. I tell him I’m knocking off at 4 and he says 5, we work 4km away from each other by the way… I tell him I won’t wait an hour and that I’m going to gym and we should make our ‘meeting’ at 6 and he agrees. He also adds that it will work for him because they are having a lunch thing with their CEO, whatever, all that I hear is that he will eat and basically reminding me it’s just coffee… psshh
The date, no oops, the meeting/coffee meet and greet. He texts me he has arrived and I say I’m 2 minutes away… I park, put on lipstick, grab my wallet because I’m hungry and WILL feed myself but if chivalry is dead, it’s the last he’ll hear from me…
I fake a fast pace and head inside all while telling myself that if he is a catfish, Im walking out and I’m not going to endure a horrible date…. I call him, first time I hear his voice and I don’t like his accent, not a deal breaker but meh… weird he has never called me. I digress… he picks up and say he’s walking behind me…. why isn’t he in? Did he think I wouldn’t pitch? again I digress, sorry. I turn around and he’s looking in the fucking sky avoiding eye contact, this is going to be a very short date…. I have no more rope left with tinder matches. ZERO. I say hi and he says hi while looking at the waiter who’s asking us where we want to sit. I head upstairs and they both follow. We grab seats and change our minds, then we move again and he grabs my handbag for me…. I don’t like that… is this him being nice? He pulls the chair for me and I dont notice so I pull my own and sit… lol I’m sorry, the bar is set on 0, actually the bar is pulled out and left in the garage.
The waiter brings menus and asks if we’ll be eating and we both respond at the same time. I say yes, he says no. hahahahaha! I further explain that I’ll be eating as it’s dinner time and I’m hungry and I order a glass of wine, he says he will order his juice when I order my food… is he stingy? does he qualify for being in these dating streets? so many concerns… I can hold my own but I don’t want a man who will not feed me! give me wine, food and D, I’m simple.
The banter is lovely and I learn that he’s very reserved. He looks me in the eyes… he smiles and asks questions and he answers. He’s a new breed and I have zero experience with the quiet shy type. It’s going to be a challenge.
I eat and have another glass of wine while he slowly sips his orange juice…I go to the ladies and bump into a highschool ‘friend’ and she blatantly asks ” is that your husband?” bitch mind your own fucking business because I can see you are here with a different guy from the one you posted on FB yesterday with the caption “love lives here #mylove”. I just say “he’s one of them” and walk away….. People are so nosy!
The bill comes and I’m ready to pay and he stops me…. VERY GOOD BOY!
he walks me to my car, gives me a hug and leaves…. I was totally going to kiss him but oh well… I told you I don’t have experience with decent guys.
Turns out he’s really watching his weight, he used to be fat so he doesn’t eat after 6, doesn’t drink alcohol and was a little hurt why I ignored his chair pull out. We exchange pleasantries because I had a good time and so did he, was there an explosion of chemistry, no but we’ll see, SEEEEE?? I’m doing it again, trying to make him ‘fit’ my mcdreamy man.
He immediately wants us to hang out again and do a proper date… but it’s been a week since our meeting. yesterday I had a dentist app and remember we work in close proximity so I really don’t understand why we can’t even do lunch dates but anyway, he hasn’t brought up the date thing again. on my way to the app, I asked him if he would like a 5 min visit and he agreed. I went there empty handed because his diet sounds complex. he hops into the car, I take off my seat belt and he doesn’t gesture for a hug so please forget a kiss.
5 minutes later I literally have to go. I found myself asking HIM when we would hang out again and I don’t remember the response, It’s over before it began right? I was ready to write his name on the fridge magnet of potentials my sis and I have… was ready to weigh out the pros ….
I’m ready to stop this post here because I have more complaints about him. So no, it’s clear that this match is not a match.